5個令對方原諒你的方法 5 things to let he/she forgives you

有時侯我們做錯了事,惹得對方生氣,怎麼辧呢?

What if he/she gets angry ? 

1. 想出為什麼

要解決問題先要從原因著手,聆聽他的訴說。是不是你做錯了,或是某些事情重複犯錯,碰到對方的底線呢?如果讓問題不了了之,往後只會有更大怒氣爆發。所以要認真想出他生氣的原因喔! 

2. 認真道歉

如果原因是因為你真的做錯了,真誠的道歉和承諾才能平息怒氣呢。沒有人希望一直氣沖沖對著心愛的人,只是當時有沒有下台階,他一定會接受你的誠意。 

3. 寧靜片刻

不要因為想盡快和好如初而逼他回答你,只會令他感到煩悶而弄巧反拙。怎麼不給一些時間讓大家冷靜一下?你想想有什麼解決辦法可以哄哄他,他又能平息一下怒氣。 

4. 溫柔的動作

當你認為大家都開始冷靜下來,身體語言比說話奏效得多。溫柔的牽起他的手,揉揉他的背部,給他一個擁抱,表示你仍想跟他在一起,讓他感受到你的愛和尊重。此溫柔之著已經可以令他心軟起來,怒氣大減。 

5. 感動他

相愛都是互相哄哄大家,撤嬌一下,你可以做一些平常他喜歡或欣賞你做的事,例如弄他最愛的甜品給他,買他捨不得買的東西,表示你希望補償而且很愛他喔! 

這些建議都是十分奏效,因為大家仍深愛著對方,只要有誠意,不會故意讓對方難堪的。

1. Identify why

Problems will not be solved until you know why. Listen to what he/she said. Is that your problems? Is that something you both discussed before but it happens again? If just let the problems go, the potential anger will break out and even more escalated.  

2. Apologise and mean it

If you did something wrong, he/she just simply needs your sincere apology and promise for not doing again. Your love will give you a chance if you mean it. 

3. Give a bit of silence 

When he/she doesn’t want to talk anymore, please do not push him/her to give you a response. The conversation will end up if he/she gets annoyed. Why don’t give some time for both of you to calm down and figure out the solution?  

4. Do gentle gestures and touch 

When both of you are calm, make he/she feel respectful and loved. Gentle rub the back, hold hands, give a hug to show you wish to connect with him/her again. If he/she wants to talk, they will show you. Don’t rush. 

5. Do what he/she always wants you to do

To gain his/her forgiveness by doing what he/she appreciates you before. For example, your love likes your desserts, you can promise to make one for him/her as compensation. Or, you can buy what his/her favourite as soon as possible to show you love her and put him/her as first.  

These advice are effective because your love won’t let you feel low even when they are mad.